Dear Isaac,
I know you can’t ever read this but maybe one day I will read it to you. Maybe one day you will understand.
Tonight when you moaned and screamed when I was trying to watch a video, you made me grumpy. I still love you even when I got mad at you and I am secretly glad you are well enough to scream and moan now.
The last two days I have watched you have lots of seizures and I have been so worried about you. I worry you might go to hospital or you might faint. When you have lots of seizures I don’t like going to school or leaving you.
I call your name to try and wake you up. I prefer you wide awake and acting normal. I miss your screaming and being noisy when you have seizures. It’s like you are there but not there. You scare me but I still love you. I pray God will stop your seizures soon because I want you better.
One time I counted you had at least 7 naps in one day. I played card games with mom and dad and still you didn’t wake up. That made me sad. I missed you that day so much.
When you have a bath I really want to play with you and have fun but just as I start to have fun with you you push me away and it makes me cry. Why do you do that? I wish you could talk to me and tell me. I would understand. I love you.
I love going on trains with you and going to the park. You are always happy in those places. I know you love me pushing the roundabout for you. I like seeing you on the swing too because I got you that swing for you, though I know you will never understand that. I did it because I don’t think life is fair to you and its better when you are happy. When you are happy I am happy too.
You keep me awake with his noises at night and wake me up early. I forgive you. Always.
You kill my fish by feeding them. Feeding fish is good Isaac but maybe not with talcum powder, toothpaste, trains and bubble bath! You do lots of naughty things like use felt pens on the armchairs, tipping bins, pulling pictures off walls, wandering away, and you always have to be first in the house.
You make mommy and daddy sad but I want to tell you it’s okay. We all forgive you. We all love you. Sometimes we might be mad but we always forgive. We know you don’t mean it, though I have some baby fish now so it would be good if you just let ME feed them. Would that be okay?
Sometimes you get more attention. Mom is always bathing you because you scream and throw things if she doesn’t. You always want to go out even if I don’t want to and it sometimes feels like you always get your own way. It’s not really fair but I still love you.
You can scream very loudly. You hit me all the time. Please can you be gentle? Until then, I will be patient while you learn.
There are things you can’t do. You can’t talk or write or read. I know you can’t read this but maybe you will understand if I read it to you. Maybe.
You can play just in a bit of an awkward way like tipping things on the floor or eating teddies. You only sometimes cuddle me but that’s okay.
You can be funny though. You try to push the roundabout AND get in it at the same time! You throw your fork away when you have finished eating because you forget we can wash them. You put your fork in-between your toes and then pick up food with your fingers. That’s clever and funny.
You put your iPad behind your bed and think it will magically charge there. You chew charging leads and then wonder why they don’t work anymore. You make me smile and I really love you.
You never walk to school because it’s 14 miles away. You get star of the week more than me because there are less children in your class. That’s unfair! You get it for silly things too. But you never have show and tell. That would be funny because you can’t tell anything anyway. That must be hard because I know you want to say so much.
You are always on google maps. I think that’s amazing and clever. Some people don’t think you are smart but you are.
You never get to be secret student like me. My school is doing secret student now and I was secret student today in my class. When I was chosen I thought of you. Would you know what that is? The more I get bigger the more I wonder about things that you might never do or understand.
You know what though, I think they chose me deliberately because I was having a bad day. I went to school crying today because you had some of those seizure things again and I want to make sure you are okay. I can’t be a good sister if I am at school can I? I’m sorry I left you.
My friends don’t understand what it’s like having a brother like you.
Sometimes I don’t want them to even know about you. I worry they would say nasty things about you because you are different or say nasty things about me. My best friend knows about you though. She worries that you may hit me but I don’t like her questioning things about you. It’s hard to explain about you because you are just, well, you are just very special and sometimes precious things are best kept secret. Is that okay?
Sometimes I love you Isaac. Sometimes I hate you. It’s hard having a brother like you but it’s also easy having a brother like you. It’s hard to live with you but its easy to love you. Really easy.
You are my friend sometimes and a bully other times. I wish we could be friends more. I am going to try and help you do that.
You teach me how to be patient and that it’s okay to be different.
I want to be there for you when you are bigger. I want mommy to teach me to care for you. Please let me me do that will you?
Please try and keep learning. I believe in you. I will teach you. I can do dividing with remainders now and everything! But what I am most happy about doing is making you smile.
You are the best brother in the world even when you make me cry. I know I make you cry too.
You help me. I help you. How does that sound?
If you can’t say yes just sign it please.
It’s okay because I understand.
With love,
your sister Naomi
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