“I left these shorts on my daughter’s bed today. She needed new ones and I thought she’d be thrilled with the floral embroidery.
‘Thanks mom,’ she said half-heartedly.
I asked if she didn’t like them and she assured me she did.
‘But everyone else wears short shorts. Why can’t I?’
Ah. So we’re here. I didn’t think we’d get to the ‘everyone else’ phase until cell phones or cars were being discussed.
‘We aren’t everyone else. I’m sorry you’re disappointed, but those shorts are spectacular! I wish they made them in my size.’ I tried to make a joke but she wasn’t buying it.
I know what she’s talking about too. Her friends sometimes come over in itty-bitty shorts. And we see them even shorter at stores – you know where you can see actual butt cheeks. Yeah sorry, not happening.
I get it – she wants to fit in, but she’s NINE. School isn’t a fashion runway, it’s a place to learn. And we simply don’t want her bum exposed.
I’m not sure what the designers were thinking when they came up with daisy dukes for kids, but we won’t be buying them. Not for the foreseeable future.
I even asked my husband – am I limiting her individuality? Am I being a hypocrite and not allowing her to be who she wants to be?
‘No,’ he said, ‘you’re making sure her underwear isn’t showing.’
So we decided this summer she can wear shorter shorts to the beach, or for hanging out, but not at school. Let’s stop pressuring our kids to grow up so fast. Let’s let them be little.
And please let’s keep their fanny’s covered.”
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