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‘My partner of 4 years left with no explanation. I was blindsided with an earth-shattering, life-changing conversation.’
“He came into the bedroom to wake me up, just as he had done every day of our relationship. Only today was different. My entire life had been flipped upside down in an instant, and no matter how hard I tried to get it back, it was gone.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘Before the doctor came in he started telling us about drinking prune juice. He started laughing as he tells us he drank 3 glasses of it, and it worked. We started laughing – loudly.’
“I realized it was a sound we hadn’t heard for a very long time. For a moment, our world was normal.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘You are not their only parent. You co-parent with addicts, who have harmed, forgotten and neglected these kiddos. I have had children years before learning their middle names.’
“You have unannounced visits where they look in your cupboards and question your mountain of laundry. They are quick to judge the dishes in your sink and the fact you forgot to lock up the medicine. I’m under scrutiny.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘The control, manipulation and deceit were hard to recognize, but when it became clear, it was devastating. She said to me, ‘Nobody will ever believe you.”
“I was angry. I really believed she was doing everything she was because she cared about me.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘Every mom can relate to getting rid of toys behind their kids’ backs. Then one night your daughter walks up and asks, ‘Hey mom, where’s my pink baby walrus?’ Your heart stops.’
“Ummmm… busted. Crap. Uhh divert, divert, divert.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘We went in for the ultrasound to find out the genders of our identical twins after having 2 girls already. The tech asked us what our guesses were. You said, ‘2 more girls.’ I sat there in shock.’
“I knew it would be a boy, as that is all I planned for in life.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘Last week, a boy at school punched my daughter in the face. HARD. And yes, I have pictures.’
“She came into the world weighing 4lbs. 5 years later, she is still extremely petite. I need anyone reading this to react with the appropriate amount of horror when absorbing the following sentence…”
By LJ Herman -
‘I have a confession. I have a crippling fear my child will get taken.’
“The fear of losing one of my children at a park, or the zoo, or even the grocery store, has paralyzed me. The fear of someone taking one of them is so overwhelming, it is often easier and safer to just stay at home.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘I was afraid to be alone with him. My phone records were being watched meticulously. I wasn’t allowed to work past a certain time. I felt like I brought this on because I couldn’t give him a child.’
“The final straw came on my birthday. My best friend told me my husband had tried to sleep with her while he was drunk. I was in a daze for months.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘I began to tell people. ‘No heartbeat’ is what I sent. I was numb. We went to a bar, and yes, I ordered a drink.’
“I did feel like I was doing something wrong by drinking with a fetus inside me. However, we needed it.”
By LJ Herman -
