life after divorce

On the left, woman battling breast cancer takes a photo with her family, on the right, same woman shows off her scars from her double mastectomy

‘Your cancer is aggressive.’ I replied, ‘Great, so am I.’ I was the youngest one in the oncology suite by 30 years.’: Breast cancer survivor celebrates three years cancer free, ‘I chose not to let fear define me’

“I was flooded with support, but also stories of ‘my aunt had it and she died’ or ‘my sister’s friend had it twice and she’s great now.’ I didn’t want the pink-washed version of cancer. I didn’t need you to tell me to write my kids goodbye letters. My story was different.”

‘Just 10 months after our divorce was finalized, AJ took his own life.’: Divorced widow navigates grief with rare identity

“Was I a widow? Or was I just the ex-wife? I was still the mother of his child, but we weren’t in an active relationship at this time of his death. What and who did this make me? I’d lost the man I loved, but I wasn’t granted extended bereavement time off work. There was no GoFundMe pages created to help with the unexpected funeral costs. His sudden death had me questioning everything, including my identity.”

‘You’re awkward around me. You keep away. You used to know me as so and so’s wife. But now I’m just a so and so.’: Newly divorced woman urges friends ‘treat me like a person still’

“I’m not diseased. I’m not to be pitied or swept under a rug. I’m not broken. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. And two hearts to break even more when people pick sides. If you ever find yourself in my shoes (and I pray you never do), I hope no one treats you like this.”

‘How did we get here?’ After 12 years, we turned into unrecognizable strangers. I was 27, a mom to the sweetest boy, and getting divorced. This wasn’t the plan.’: Single mom takes the risk, meets ‘knight in shining armor’ on Tinder

“My friend encouraged me to make a dating profile. ‘Find 3 guys you feel a connection with, give 2 your number, and go on a date with 1… ‘ I found myself driving towards Applebee’s, my heart racing. I just wanted to get ‘this’ going or over with, then my phone rings. ‘Ashton – Cute Tinder Guy’ flashes across my phone screen.  Time and my breathing stop.”

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