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I Got Chronically Ill At 19, And All My Friends Abandoned Me

“My empty space in photographs was an open wound; I’d cry scrolling through Instagram, feeling left out and forgotten, wondering when things would change. I’ve read time and again people are grateful for their illness because it’s shown them who their true friends are. But what do you do when your illness proves you had almost no true friends at all?”

Two mom friends pose for a photo in front of a colorful mural while spending quality time together

‘I’ve always loved my friends – but in different seasons of parenting, I’ve placed different value on my friendships.’: Mom shares important lesson on friendship, ‘Don’t be scared to take the first step’

“When my kids were little, friends were a lifeline. We got together daily to keep our sanity. As our kids got older, and we entered the ‘sweet spot’ before adolescence, I put my friendships on the back burner. But in the past 18 months, I’ve needed my friends on a new level.”

‘Just 10 months after our divorce was finalized, AJ took his own life.’: Divorced widow navigates grief with rare identity

“Was I a widow? Or was I just the ex-wife? I was still the mother of his child, but we weren’t in an active relationship at this time of his death. What and who did this make me? I’d lost the man I loved, but I wasn’t granted extended bereavement time off work. There was no GoFundMe pages created to help with the unexpected funeral costs. His sudden death had me questioning everything, including my identity.”

‘I started getting texts from Mrs. Tina. ‘If you need a nap, just throw Emily over the fence and I will watch her.’: Struggling mom thanks neighbor for standing in the gap during pandemic

“My husband was an essential worker, working 6 days a week an hour away. I held down the fort at home, and did my best to nurture my pregnancy. So, here I was, alone with kids, pregnant, and in new house, in a new area where we didn’t know anyone. Mrs. Tina’s gestures of kindness saved me.”

‘Wanted: ‘That’ mom friend. My lonely hands are out-stretched, just waiting for you to take them.’: Mom urges ‘I hope we can soon stop the looking, together’

“The one who I can call at any hour of the night, because both our families are wide awake anyhow. That friend who sends memes of familiar frustrations, and follows up with ‘We got this,’ and ‘I’m always here.’ The friend who overcasts the heavy, uneducated opinions of others with her kindness.”

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