overcoming beauty standards

‘My good friend asked if I could do her a favor and wear a wig to her wedding. She wants us all to ‘look good’. My friends have always known me as the girl with no hair.’ Bald woman offended when pressured to ‘match’ at friend’s wedding

“I’ve already paid for a dress, shoes, plane tickets, and deposit. A realistic wig is VERY expensive. We’re wearing matching dresses. Why isn’t that enough? Is being bald so hideous I’ll ruin her pictures? I know it’s ‘her day’, but isn’t there a line?'”

‘It started innocent. I figured I’d skip a few meals, run more. I never imagined the horrible, disgusting things I’d do to myself. I had only wanted to lose 15 pounds.’

“At first, it was run-of-the-mill diet talk. ‘Cut carbs! No dairy!’ Then I saw picture upon picture of skin-and-bone bodies. I was repulsed and intrigued. Soon enough, I started feeling guilty if I wasn’t cutting out meals. I spent hours a day fantasizing about food. I’d cry in the mirror as I plugged calories into my food journal.”

‘I noticed a line emerging under my nail. It quickly passed to each finger. I was the ugly girl turning white.’: Woman with vitiligo shows her ‘true beauty’ after 32 years of hiding, ‘no longer lives life in the shadows’

“It was spreading FAST to my feet, my mouth, my gums. My insecurities even faster. My parents never asked me how I felt. They just handed me a tube of foundation and told me to keep my secret hidden. I was the only girl in 6th grade wearing makeup. They called me panda bear, monster, dalmatian, and oreo. I didn’t want to wear it. I had no choice.”

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