“The final straw came on my birthday. My best friend told me my husband had tried to sleep with her while he was drunk. I was in a daze for months.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘I was afraid to be alone with him. My phone records were being watched meticulously. I wasn’t allowed to work past a certain time. I felt like I brought this on because I couldn’t give him a child.’
By Eliza Murphy -
‘I heard this noise – a crackling noise coming from my lungs. The moment I realized my lungs sounded like Rice Krispies, my monitor started blaring. I was drowning in my own fluid. Literally.’
“My mother-in-law told my husband, ‘You get back there and get some answers or you are going to have a dead wife.’ She was right.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘Sure, it’s easy to sign up for a walk or sport a pink ribbon – but, do you want to know what most women with breast cancer despise? All. Of. That. Sh*t.’
“Do you know what is said when a woman dies from breast cancer? That she ‘lost’ a battle. No, she didn’t. She lost everything, but not a battle. This is NOT in our hands. We don’t lose because we aren’t strong enough, we die because there is no cure.”
By LJ Herman -
‘Right away I knew something was wrong. When the officer told us that he’s so sorry, but Mark died in a car accident, I completely lost it.’
“I know without a doubt my baby brother Mark put us together to save my life.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘A pregnant friend of mine asked me, ‘How is it possible that moms get depression? Isn’t motherhood joyous?’ I spat my wine out in her face.’
“Remember you said in pregnancy, ‘Oh my mother will watch the baby while I rest/recover/get my nails done?’ – only to realize your baby doesn’t want to be anywhere but ON YOU and no one, NO ONE, can look after this baby properly except you?”
By LJ Herman -
‘I had a miscarriage at age 18. Someone told me, ‘It must be because you’re not married.’’
“I started dating my husband at 13 years old. We got married at 19. I had my 1st miscarriage at 20 years old. I didn’t tell anyone. I went back to work the next day, taking orders at a drive-in, while someone was complaining about their kids.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘Dear husband, please don’t give up on us.’
“I remember us as newlyweds and how obnoxious we used to be. Holding hands everywhere, sneaking kisses. I wish I could be that girl for you, but I just can’t. I’m gross. I’m exhausted. If one more person touches me, I may lose it.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘I was pregnant. Talk about the craziest 9 months of my 16-year-old life. My life changed overnight. I found out I was pregnant in May, days after my sophomore year ended.’
“If you want to see friends come out of the woodwork, get pregnant at 16. Everyone judges every move you make as a 16-year-old mom.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘It was so simple for me to accidentally get pregnant with my twins. Why couldn’t I do this for my wife?! I felt as if I was failing her. Something I never wanted to do.’
“This was something we both wanted SO badly, yet everything was going horribly wrong. This wasn’t full of whispers and giggles and kisses like we had thought. This was full of frustration, anger, and disappointment.”
By Eliza Murphy -
‘The other day I read I was a victim. Because my son died, I am considered a victim. I threw the book away.’
“I never thought I would laugh again. I didn’t deserve it. I lost a child. I had no right to be happy.”
By Eliza Murphy -
