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‘I was out for a run when a man angrily yelled from his porch, ‘You never say hello or even wave.’ I was furious.’: Mom of 5 shares powerful reminder ‘women do not exist to please men’

“What do I owe this man who is a complete stranger to me? If he’s lonely, is it up to me to entertain him? If he’s sad, is it on me to make him happy? And If I were a man out for a run, would he have stopped me and spoke to me in the same angry manner? He believed his needs were more important than mine.”

‘Papa, please back up!’ He doesn’t move. ‘Relax, I can play how I want with her,’ he ruffles her hair.’: Mom stands up to grandfather for inappropriate touching, teaches 3-year-old daughter she’s ‘allowed, expected’ to say no

“A grown man looms behind my 3-year-old daughter. He will poke or tickle her, and she responds by shrinking. ‘Mae.’ My tone cuts through the noise. She does not look at me. ‘Mae.’ I start again. ‘You can tell him no.’ As I say the words, my stepfather leans in closer. His grin taunts me as my daughter tries to escape his hot breath. I repeat myself. She finally peeks up at me. ‘Mama…can you say it?’”

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