‘Are you OK?’ We got pulled over by THREE officers because I had a big black guy in my car they assumed was a danger.’: Woman urges ‘being a living black man should be normal not lucky’

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“Related to the death of Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd, I’ve struggled to find words…so I came up with a list of risky things people shouldn’t do while black in America. ⁣

Taking a run while black is a risk – Ahmaud Arbery. ⁣

Selling CD’s while black is a risk – Alton Sterling. ⁣

Holding a cellphone while black is a risk – Stephon Clark. ⁣

Walking home with skittles in a pocket while black is a risk – Trayvon Martin. ⁣

Going to church while black is a risk – Charleston Shooting. ⁣

Getting a routine traffic ticket while black is a risk – Sandra Bland. ⁣

Lawfully enjoying the rights warranted under the second amendment while black is a risk – Philando Castile. ⁣

Playing games involving nerf or airsoft guns or anything resembling a weapon while black is a risk – Tamir Rice. ⁣

Looking remotely suspicious while black is a risk – Eric Garner and George Floyd. ⁣

This. Is. Not. New. ⁣

When. Will. This. Stop. ⁣ ⁣

My husband and I got pulled over in our tiny 86% white town. Not one, not two, but t-h-r-e-e officers pulled beside us, walked up to Jimmie’s side of the car only to ask me if I was okay. No ticket, no explanation, they just assumed because I had a big black guy in my passenger seat, I was in danger. ⁣

The cops were called on us while sitting in the car in front of our friends’ house because we were exhibiting ‘suspicious behavior.’ ⁣

Someone called the police on him for picking up his friend’s daughter off the bus. They worried about the little girl’s safety, again, solely because she was walking with a big black guy. ⁣

Any of these tragic stories of normal people doing normal things while black ending in death — Could. Easily. Be. His. ⁣

And the tragic stories of their families left lost and empty — Could. Easily. Be. Mine. ⁣

Being a living black man should be considered normal, not lucky. ⁣

When assuming the threat level of a person based on their size and race, I’ll tell you right now you’re greatly overestimating his and greatly underestimating mine. IT ISN’T ACCURATE. ⁣

I don’t even know what else to say. All I know is my husband deserves to be able to run, sell CD’s, hold a phone, walk home and eat skittles, go to church, get a traffic ticket, lawfully carry a weapon, play with toy guns, and walk the streets without potentially losing his life. And I’ll keep opening my white mouth writing things like this until it happens. ⁣ ⁣

This, what we’re living in right now, for lack of a better phrase, is crap. ⁣

And spare the comments celebrating the progress we’ve made in this country. When lives are still being senselessly taken, progress is not enough anymore.”

Courtesy of Kayah Roper

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