‘Sexy is a 20-minute bath while Daddy watches the baby. Sexy is lifting up other women and never being too smart to learn something new.’: Woman challenges definition of ‘sexy’

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I’m SO SICK and tired of girls being led to believe that they’ve got to pucker their lips, stick out their butt, flash some cleavage, and put seven filters on their face to feel like they’re cute. ⁣

Girls, this is sexy….

Working hard. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.⁣

Giving of yourself. And even when you don’t feel like you can, having the faith to know that God will carry you through it.⁣

Making yourself a priority. Even if all that consists of is taking a 20-minute bath while Daddy watches the baby.⁣

Being a leader. Someone who lifts others up, encourages, and supports other women.⁣

Being a spouse who stands by their man. She fills the gap when he’s tired and weak, she is a soft place to fall and simultaneously hell on wheels when needed.⁣

It’s humility. Understanding that you’re one person in an enormous universe. The world doesn’t revolve around you.⁣

Being a life-long learner. You’re never going to be too smart to listen and learn something, even from the least expected places. Get off your pedestal, look around, and learn something. ⁣

It’s understanding your strength. Stop acting like a fragile little flower and woman up. Again, and again, and again.⁣

It’s being vulnerable. When ‘womaning-up’ is just too hard, allowing yourself to accept your weaknesses and ask for help.⁣

These are just a taste of the qualities that can make up one helluva sexy woman. ⁣

Stop limiting yourself to six pack abs and booty bands.⁣

Pick up a freaking shovel, love someone, learn something, and discover yourself.⁣

That’s what sexy is to me.⁣

Which of these do you need to work on?”

Courtesy of Shannon Klepac

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