‘I love my kids, but I don’t miss them when I get a break. I look forward to it.’: Mom says ‘loving time without your kids doesn’t make you a horrible mother, it makes you human’

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“My kids go to their grandparents for a sleepover, but I don’t miss them. I actually look forward to it.

It makes me a better mom.
It’s good for me, and them.

I went to go out with a friend last weekend for a late dinner and when I got there, she asked where my kids were tonight. I said, ‘Oh, they’re at their grandparents for the night.’ And she said, ‘Oh, that must be hard, you must miss them!’

I thought to myself and said, ‘Not really!’

It’s good for moms to have breaks. And looking forward to time without your kids doesn’t make you a horrible mother, it makes you human.

It’s good for my mental health to spend time apart from them and regather my thoughts.

It’s good to have some one-on-one time with their dad, who is not just their dad, he is also my husband.

It’s important to reconnect on a level where we are not just ‘mom and dad.’ To remind us that we are also husband and wife.

It’s important for me, to remind myself that I am a person. I am not just ‘mom.’ I am so much more.

It’s important for my children to spend time with their grandparents as well.

I love my kids, more than anything, but I don’t miss them when I get the chance to have a break.

Those breaks are crucial to me as a mom, as a human, and to my mental health.

They are also very important to my kids, to explore life without me, sometimes.

Breaks are not only important when you are a parent, they are necessary.

So, no, I don’t miss my kids when I have a night away from them.

I love them, because the break is very much needed, for both of us.

It’s okay to have a break from your kids, and be happy about it.

It’s okay to have a night away, and not miss them.

Yes, you are mom.
But you are also a human, with needs.
Take time to yourself, and don’t feel guilt about it.

It’s okay to take a break, and not miss your kids.”

Courtesy of Caitlin Fladager

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