‘She said, ‘I know I shouldn’t complain, because as you know…it could always be worse.’ Wait a second. What?’: Special needs mom says ‘my son is not your worst-case scenario’

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“A while back, I was texting with a friend who was having some medical issues with her typical child. Lots of back and forth, and then it came. ‘I know I shouldn’t complain, because as you know…it could always be worse.’

I do know…whoa, wait a second. What? I have been stewing on this and thinking of what I should have said because I didn’t respond and say what I wished I would have.

We are not an example of ‘worse.’ My son should not come to mind when you think of ‘worse’ scenarios. Because we are anything but.

Yes, his life comes with challenges many will never have firsthand experience with. Yes, there are things about his disorder I would love to change. Yes, his life looks very different than most kids his age. Yes, there are countless experiences in life he will never get the chance to do.

But his existence, his life, is not worse. He is not ‘of poorer quality or lower standard; less good or desirable’ (Oxford dictionary).

He’s not your worst-case scenario. He’s not the bar of which to measure a ‘better’ life.

He’s amazing and knows how to manipulate a situation to get his way. He’s smart and loves to be read to all day long. He’s so loved and is starting to lean in for a kiss, which I can’t get enough of. He’s silly and loves to wrestle.

He is unequivocally incomparable. And that, my friends, is the complete opposite of worse.”

special needs mom carrying her son on her chest outdoors on a winter day while both wearing gray beanies and a blanket
Courtesy of Melissa Schlemmer

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