Isla Christner was born with a rare genetic disorder called H3F3a, but didnโt receive a diagnosis until this year when she was 5 years old. Since then, her parents have watched her grow to be more independent and strong.
Because of H3FA, Isla struggles with global and growth delays, gross motor skills, and speech delays. While she was coded with a โfailure to thriveโ by doctor for years, her diagnosis came as a surprise at what was supposed to be a normal appointment with the geneticist.

โWeโd really come to terms with the fact that we would just never know why Isla was delayed and behind. So to find out she had a rare disorder diagnosis all of a sudden was shocking,โ Islaโs mother, Brindisi, says. โAt first I felt devastated. There was a lot of grief associated with the news. It felt like a death sentence at first.โ

โI think before the diagnosis I felt like there was just an open ended abyss. Almost like there was still a possibility everything was normal and nothing was wrong,โ she continues. โSo to get a diagnosis felt like the confirmation that something was going on. It also felt like a huge relief all at the same time. I think it alleviated some of the pressure of constantly wondering.โ
Despite the fear, just two months after the diagnosis, Isla began to walk. The milestone meant a lot to her family, as it represented Islaโs strength and independence.

โThis school year was the first time Islaโs ever been walking for the first day. It feels so satisfying to see her reach her goals. We are so proud of her and all the hard work sheโs shown,โ Brindisi tells Love What Matters.
โSometimes itโs hard to explain to people what a big deal it is for her to be walking when they didnโt know her before when she wasnโt as mobile. I make it a big priority to explain how far sheโs come when we meet someone new.โ
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Through their journey, Islaโs mom has learned how to become an advocate for Isla to make sure that she is able to live a happy and full life. Being able to share her progress, needs and wants is important in creating a more open and empathetic discussion around kids with disabilities.

โI try hard to explain to her teachers and peers that Isla doesnโt speak, but she can understand most of what people say. I think itโs important to educate and talk about our differences and similarities,โ Brindisi says.
โI encourage people to ask questions about Isla when they have them. When I speak to other parents with a disabled children, I always encourage them to listen to their intuition and gut. You are the expert on your child and know whatโs best for them.โ
Islaโs growth in the past year has astonished her family and has given them hope and pride in their little girl. As they watch her learn new skills that were previously impossible for Isla, they hope she can continue to grow and live a long, full life surrounded by people who love and support her.

This article was written exclusively for Love What Matters by Anna Steingruber. You can follow our contributor, Brindisi Christner, on Instagram. Join the Love What Matters family and subscribe to our newsletter.
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