“‘I can totally see you having another baby. Don’t you want to try for a boy?’
You all know my stance by now, and there ain’t NO WAY I would willingly add another child to the family.
I recently had a chat with a friend about how I knew I was done. We discussed how I personally follow my intuition with all major decisions and how it has never steered me wrong.
These little girls give me so much joy, so much love, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.
Do I love being pregnant? Yes, I found it to be the most magical and beautiful chapter of my life.
Do I LOVE giving birth? Yes, and honestly this is something I still wish I could do over and over. I have never felt more empowered, strong, or badass as I did giving birth to my girls.
It’s the perinatal anxiety, the postpartum depression and anxiety and the complete and total loss of self that did it for me. Twice I’ve had to crawl out of the deepest darkest hole I have ever been in, while trying to be the best mother I could be to two little souls. I don’t think I could do it again.
They say you will know when you’re done, and from the bottom of my heart I know I am.
It’s okay to love having babies, to love the process, but to absolutely positively never want to do it again.
It’s okay to feel done after one, or two, or however many you feel completes your family.
Listen to your inner voice, and drown out all the others telling you the way they think it should be.
After all, are they going to be there with you in the pit of depression?
Are they going to be doing the late night feeds, or wake with your older children so you can sleep in?
Are they going to be cooking all your meals, carting your kids around, and cleaning your home while you recover from another birth?
Never feel guilty for following your intuition. That is your inner truth, and if it’s telling you you’re done, than trust it. If that feeling changes in a year or so, that’s okay too!
Just know only YOU know what’s best for yourself and your family (and that applies to everything).”
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