A guide on closed adoption, from an adoptee herself.
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A guide on closed adoption, from an adoptee herself.
“Being adopted is hard and being Korean-American is hard, so having both of those experiences intersect can be confusing and painful at times. Now I’m a lot more open about the ups and downs of being adopted and the reality of being a racial minority.”
“We all gave Addie one last hug and kiss, as we sobbed getting back into the minivan we had purchased that summer to fit all of the kids. The heartbreak DCS warned us about was happening and it was awful.”
“He wasn’t mine to keep. I know that… but he didn’t.”
“She asked me to be with her in the delivery room, which was an honor I will never forget—just the two of us welcoming our daughter into this world.”
“Throughout the journey we kept imagining what it would be like meeting Alpha for the first time, playing it over and over in our minds. But nothing could prepare us for how it really was.”
“‘No one ever calls to check on foster kids. What do you want?’ Over the next couple of months, we moved quickly through so many decisions.”
“I couldn’t let everything Ryan and I proved go to waste. I wanted to be a mom and needed a sense of purpose again.”
“‘Mom, I know how she feels. She wants you but she doesn’t.’ He gently took her out of my arms, wrapped them both in a blanket, and walked out in the rain. I watched my son, who I fought to love for what felt like a lifetime, create a safe space, like I’d tried to do so many times for him.”
“His birth mother held him with tears running down her cheeks. In that moment, we knew the sacrifices and heartbreak birth mothers live through. We all hugged and cried together, knowing this was the right decision all around.”