‘I heard from a friend that another was gossiping about me. For the first time, I said I didn’t really care. And I meant it.’: Woman says ‘drown out any noise that doesn’t serve you’ this 2022

“I heard from a friend that another was gossiping about me.

She asked me how I felt about it and to be honest?

For the first time, I said I don’t really care and I meant it.

You see, I spent years caring about what people thought and adjusted my actions accordingly, but nothing ever made those people happy.

It’s because their problem with me has nothing to do with me at all.

It is their problem.

Their insecurities.

Their projections.

I can’t force someone to understand me if they are committed to misunderstanding me based on their own biases.

I learned in 2021 that I spent so much time apologizing for who I am.

And altering who I am to make other people comfortable.

I went through a marriage breakup.

I dealt with countless hospital trips.

Homelessness.

Unemployment.

Without the help from people who have opinions on how I live my life, so when it comes to owing someone something, I simply don’t.

I am proud of how far I’ve come and that proudness drowns out any noise.

And I hope for 2022, it does for you too.

I am excited for this year, I really am.

Because I’m not the same girl I was last year.

I’m excited to get to know who I am.

And I don’t have any resolutions.

I don’t have ‘a word.’

I don’t have goals.

I have a new attitude that is all about honoring myself.

And I hope for this year, you do the same.

That you honor yourself.

You give the same love to yourself that you give to others.

You become so proud that you drown out any noise that doesn’t serve you.

And as the great Betty White once said (may God rest her soul),

‘Why do people say ‘grow some balls? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.’

And for 2022, I intend to take many.”

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