“What did she just say ?!?!
Yes, I have six kids under the age of six – and yes, they are all from the same man. Thanks so much for asking.
Having six children this young is a struggle! We struggle to get to the shops, we struggle out to dinner, with school runs and keeping the house clean; but, I mean, doesn’t everybody?
What I really struggle with are people’s unwanted opinions.
I’ve tried to not let it get to me, I’ve tried to ignore it and smile and keep walking, but I’ve found the only way to deal with constant negative commenters is to give them what they really want to hear.
So, here’s a few tips and tricks on how to answer when asked the typical questions big families get.
I’ll set the scene for you:
The husband and I are waiting for the shops to open with one trolley containing two kids, one pram with two kids and two running around in circles.
A smug lady in her forties comes over, ‘They are not all yours, are they?!?!’ she says with a smug, disapproving look.
‘Yep, sure are; born and bred from my uterus; surprisingly enough, my pelvic floor is still fantastic – isn’t it babe?’ (I look at Dave with a wink.)
‘Do they all have the same father?!’
‘Well, we haven’t had them genetically tested, but we’re fairly certain the first four are this guy’s.’ (I gesture to Dave.)
‘Do you own a tv?’
‘Actually we own three; however, who would pass up mind blowing sex for tv, are you nuts?’
‘Is this man your husband?’
‘No, actually my husband’s at home, he deserves a rest – this is my lover, Fernando.’
‘You’re not having anymore are you?’
‘I mean, my husband has had a vasectomy if that’s what your asking, but Fernando, my lover, has not, so I guess we’re just throwing it to the wind.’
I could go on. But you get my gist.
It’s not okay to make someone feel like the amount of children they have is wrong or right. It’s actually no one’s business. Whether you have zero children or ten children. If they are happy and healthy and loved!!
We should all be supportive of one another; so many beautiful people out there support us and I would be lost without them.
Dave’s at work so I’m going to spend the day hanging out with Fernando.
Happy Friday y’all xx”
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