You’re killin’ it.
And I think it’s time that someone told you.
More than that, I think it’s time the world rallied around you fellas and shouted your praises.
We, women who are mothers, are *usually* good at building each other up, but where we often slack is doing the same for our male counterparts.
When it comes to you all, we are quick to dismiss your hard work (because how could it compare to ours), assume life is easier for you (it ain’t, I know), and joke at your expense (’cause the marriage and dad memes circulating sure are hilarious).
I want to flip the script, though.
In my own home, for sure, but I’m hoping other gals will do the same.
I know a lot about being a woman and mother in today’s world, and it’s really freakin’ hard. But I know nothing about being a man and father in today’s world other than that it, too, is really freakin’ hard.
And you know who does hard well?
(Please get your mind out of the gutter.)
You do. Men do.
But just because you *typically* wear the heaviness of life and stress better than your wives, doesn’t mean you don’t feel steadily challenged or that there’s no need to applaud you for stepping up to plate each and every day.
For the dads who work very long hours, we know you’re working hard to support your family, and we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who stay at home with their kids, we know that ‘all day on’ shiitake isn’t easy, and we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who are still married, we know your relationship isn’t a cakewalk, but you’ve stuck around regardless, and we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who are no longer married, but are still present as hell for their children, we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who love their kids’ mama so well that their children know what being loved in the right way is supposed to look and feel like, we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who throw baseballs and footballs with their sons or daughters, and the dads who paint their toenails, wear tutus and dance around with their sons or daughters, we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who support their kids no matter what, and for the dads whose kids are kind because they model compassion incessantly, we see you, and we thank you.
For the dads who help, teach, support, encourage, fix, listen, empathize, guide, motivate, inspire, and continuously SHOW UP — however that looks for their family — we see you, and we thank you.
You see, despite any collective societal conversation that has made you feel or think otherwise, and despite any of your own fears that you are lacking or failing in some way, you sure as hell are not.
And this, well, it’s a continued promise that we, the women of the world, won’t fail you and that we will ALWAYS give you the recognition you’ve so rightfully earned and more than deserve.
With love, respect, and an immense amount of gratitude,
The Mothers of Your Children”
This story was submitted to Love What Matters by Nicole Merritt of Jthreenme, where the post originally appeared. You can follow her on Facebook, her website or podcast. Do you have a similar experience? We’d like to hear your important journey. Submit your own story here. Be sure to subscribe to our free email newsletter for our best stories, and YouTube for our best videos.
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