“I got the, ‘Oh wow, she’s yours?’ question again yesterday.
‘Aren’t you young? Don’t you feel old now? Don’t you feel like you’re missing out? Yeah, I waited until I was 29. I couldn’t imagine doing it before then.’
It hurt. I’m not going to lie. Especially because this is a mom I looked up to. She is a beautiful lady, successful in her career, parents well, and her daughter is adorable.
My ego was busted. It sucks when people think my age has a correlation to my child. That my life is less now.
Before Ella, Tyler and I would binge drink on the regular, go to the casino, and take trips on a whim. We were merely just ‘vibing,’ going with the flow, making our way through life.
Ella gave us purpose. Ella gave us a reason to be more and do more with ourselves. I see life through a different pair of eyes now.
Having a child doesn’t make me JUST A MOM. I am more than a mom.
Tyler and I still go out. But when we do, we find now that an overcrowded bar, with overpriced drinks, and people just standing around, isn’t all that fun anymore. We much more enjoy a good night out at a friend’s house, enjoying our six-packs or going to an Indians game or a night out at the casino with a good dinner.
That isn’t to say we don’t have fun with Ella, we do. But I want to make the point that being young parents doesn’t take away our joys beyond parenting.
Because I’m young, I have benefits of my own, like climbing through the jungle gym with her, crawling in the back seat when I need to. Chasing her around isn’t as hard.
God put her in my life early so I could love her a little longer.
Please do not look down on me as if I am less. My age does not reflect my ability to parent.”
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