“This morning I woke up to fighting on my Facebook feed. It’s been this way for two weeks now.
Constant flow of bad news, death tolls. Someone making a mockery of the virus or comparing it to the flu, while most others urge us to wash our hands and keep a safe distance away. But I also see the fighting. The mean comments. The comparing and belittling.
This time it took the form of a mother posting about having lost her job due to the coronavirus pandemic. She was struggling to feed her kids. Right there, in the comments, was someone who replied, ‘You can get another job, but you can’t get a life back. Quit whining and be thankful you or no one in your family are part of the death toll.’
My heart broke.
When did we decide it was okay to pit each other’s struggles against each other? When did we decide it was okay to compare each other’s grief?
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of their job.
You don’t know the financial struggles they are going through just to put food on the table. It’s more than just a job.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of their baby shower.
You don’t know how many negative pregnancy tests or miscarriages they suffered to get to this point. It’s more than just a baby shower.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of their freedom.
You don’t know the mental health struggles they were already battling before being cooped up. It’s more than just loss of freedom.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of their graduation day.
You don’t know what it means to be the very first member of a first-generation family to earn a degree. It’s more than just the loss of a graduation day.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of their wedding.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the health of their business.
It’s okay for someone to mourn the loss of comfort.
It’s okay to mourn.
It’s okay to struggle with change.
It’s natural. It’s biology. It’s human.
It doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about the death toll.
It doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about the thousands of nurses and doctors risking their lives.
It doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about the at-risk elderly or immunocompromised.
Don’t take things out of context.
And let us remember that it is always kindness and support that binds humanity together.
Let us continue to show compassion during this time, and check in on one another, regardless of the circumstances.”
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