“Two days ago, I hit bottom; like knees to the ground and ugly tears in the shower. We have three new foster children (siblings) and the trenches of trauma and grief are deep. We have had…
3 ear infections
5 cases of pink eye
1 case of periocular cellulitis, which required three trips an hour away for deep thigh injections on an already traumatized foster child.
A flat tire
Lots of poop
And extreme sleep deprivation.
So, here’s where I get honest. My friends stepped in. They didn’t ask me what I needed because honestly, I’m in so deep I have no idea what I even need.
I decided to list the things they did, because I feel like I can see the light of day and I’m no longer sobbing in the shower. I think this list may help us to truly help.
So, if you know of a family that gets new placements or brings home a newly adopted child, do this:
- Call and tell them to leave their laundry on the porch and you will pick it up and return it.
- Take them dinner or drop off a pizza and box of diapers.
- Ask to take some of their older children to do something fun.
- Find out the children’s sizes and help round up essentials (foster children generally come with the clothes on their back)
- Come over and clean their house.
- Take down their Christmas lights.
- Call and ask them what they need from the store or see if they need an errand run.
- Just use your talents. A fellow foster mama swung by my house and took the newborn to go do a newborn photo shoot at her studio. (Pictures that become priceless as they grow)
This week my village stepped into the trenches and sat with me. They didn’t ask me what I needed, they just started providing.
It truly takes a village, and I’m so grateful for mine.”
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