1. Thank you for sharing your story with me.
2. I believe you.
3. It is not your fault.
4. You have resources, and it is your choice to use them.
The DO NOTs of Being an Ally to Survivors
1. Pressure or make them report.
2. Tell someone to confront their perp (or do it yourself without permission).
3. Share their story with others—EVEN if out of concern.
4. Pass judgement on what happened or how they are handling it.
5. Make it about you.
It’s THIS easy to be supportive.
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