“April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!
For many years, I didn’t consider myself a sexual assault survivor. I largely blamed myself for what happened, and lived in a state of shame and low self-confidence.
I told myself, ‘Other people have it so much worse.’
I told myself, ‘Nobody will believe you if you share your stories.’
I told myself, ‘You should have been smarter and avoided those situations.’
Finally, slowly, I’ve started giving myself the same love, compassion, and grace I’ve always given others. I realized all of those negative thoughts I shared above have equally strong counter-arguments:
- Trauma is not a competition. Your experience and story is valid and worthy of being heard. Comparing yourself to someone else only hurts you.
- The people who are deserving of being in your life, both in person and on social media, will believe you without hesitation. They will support and uplift you. The people who don’t are not worthy of a place in your life.
- It’s not up to you to stop someone from committing sexual assault. It is never your fault. It is always completely on them.
It’s felt so freeing to start talking about this topic more on social media! It’s not always easy, but it helps me so much to share my experiences and hopefully raise awareness and help others in the process.”
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