“My grandparents are serious #relationshipgoals, because not only have they been married for 67 years, but they have loved each other through good times and bad times and never once given up on each other.
Almost eight years ago, my grandma had a very unexpected arterial venous malformation (AVM) in her brain, which was a cluster of blood vessels that untangled, burst, and required brain surgery.
As a result of the brain surgery, she had to relearn how to do essentially everything: walking, talking, eating, etc., but through all of that my grandpa never left her side and took the absolute best care of her.
The pure love you could see in his eyes when he looked at her was the kind of love that everyone dreams of experiencing in their own life, but rarely ever do.
Only two to three years after my grandma had brain surgery, my grandpa started showing signs of Alzheimer’s.
When I first heard of the suspicions that my grandpa may have Alzheimer’s, I was in complete denial because for as long as I could remember, both of my grandparents were always extremely active – not just physically, but mentally – so the thought of my grandpa potentially having Alzheimer’s seemed almost impossible to me.
You see, my grandpa was always a jokester – full of love, laughter, and a little bit of orneriness.
He was always outside doing something – whether it was tinkering around in his garage, going on a walk with his wife, or playing with his grandchildren – he always had a ‘spark’ in him and his positivity was contagious.
It’s so weird to write about my grandpa in the past tense when he’s still alive – I had to stop for a minute, because if I’m being honest, it feels like I’m writing his eulogy. This is only one example of how devastating this disease is – Alzheimer’s affects the very core of what makes a person who they are and robs them of their memories.
Because of the Alzheimer’s, my grandpa’s mood can vary by the day/hour/minute, and sometimes you never know what kind of response you’re going to get when you greet him – if any at all.
For some people, a nursing home is the best option for their loved one with Alzheimer’s, but there is no way that my grandma would ever let that happen. My grandma is such an incredible woman with faith stronger than anyone I have ever met – she truly believes that God kept her alive during the AVM/brain surgery and allowed her to have such a speedy recovery so she would be able to be here to take care of her best friend in the last years of their life together.
There are moments that my grandpa sometimes doesn’t recognize the woman he’s spent 70+ years with, but she still loves him unconditionally.
And even though the moments and interactions that you see in these photos may not be an everyday occurrence, the fact that they happen at all makes everything worthwhile.
All my life, even now, I have never been around them one time when they weren’t holding each other’s hand.
If you ever ask my grandma for relationship advice, she will simply say: ‘Stick it out!’ My grandparents came from a generation where everything was valuable to them – if something was broken, they didn’t simply discard it and replace it with something new and ‘better’ – they took the time and the effort to fix it.
The love that my grandparents share is the kind of love that I aspire to have in my own personal relationships, because not only have I witnessed just how much they love each other unconditionally, but I have also witnessed how much they genuinely love other people unconditionally.
They are truly the most inspiring people I have ever met, and I am blessed to be able to call them my grandparents.”
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