‘He pulled out a baggy from his sock. ‘I think you might like this.’ I’d do anything for him.’: Woman recovers from drug and alcohol addiction, ‘I needed to change for ME’

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“It all started with a boy. Everyone says you will always remember your first love. In my case, this is absolutely 100% true. He was handsome, charming, with a southern accent. He brought me flowers every time we had a date. He spoiled me and made me feel like I was the only girl in the world. He was also a drug addict.

We were getting his tux the night before my senior prom. Waiting in the parking lot, he pulled out a baggy from his sock. He said something like, ‘I think you might like this. It would be fun to try together.’ I asked what it was. ‘Crystal meth,’ he replied. Up to this moment, I had been drunk a handful of times and smoked pot maybe twice. But because I was in love, I would do anything for him. I agreed to try it. When we got back to his house, he got it out and lined it up with a credit card on a mirror. It was like things I had only seen in movies. And there, in his parent’s basement, I did my first line. My first hard drug.

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He was incredibly manipulative and controlling. We made a pact to only drink or drug together, which only I stuck to. He completely stripped me of any sort of normal college life. I would do anything for him. The occasional meth use turned into daily use. He wouldn’t let me light my own bowl or buy my own drugs. I guess in a way, he was protecting me? After introducing me to this terrible lifestyle? I was the most naïve drug addict you’ll ever meet because I didn’t know how to do any of it on my own.

I was still managing to do well in college, mainly because I was awake all the time, so I was ahead in all of my classes. He got a job offer in Cincinnati. He said if I didn’t come with him, we were done. I went into a depression I had never known before. I remember sleeping for days in my parent’s basement. The thought of being apart from this boy completely broke me. So, I moved to Cincinnati.

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It wasn’t long before he found someone in Cincinnati who knew someone who was a dealer. But it wasn’t meth. It was cocaine. I got excited knowing there was something else to try, so we dove right in. The coke led to crack, and the crack led to complete destruction. I was now failing school. Me, a straight-A, honor student. My mom came out to visit for my 21st birthday. I didn’t go drinking. My mom took us out to dinner, and she and I went out alone for drinks but I wasn’t getting wasted. It was all about drugs. My mom could tell something was off, but I had been lying for so long. I wasn’t ready to tell anyone. These were some of my darkest days and regretful memories. I always joke I didn’t drink much before I was 21 because it was illegal. But here I was smoking crack and meth and doing lines of coke.

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I now knew I was only in the relationship because he got me drugs. I was scared to leave because he was my first love, and I didn’t know anything else. But my life was a mess. I’d dropped out of college, claiming an ’emotional breakdown.’ I didn’t have a job. I had no idea what I was doing with myself. I was completely lost. I called my mom and told her I needed to come home. Of course, the next morning, I regretted it but it was too late. My parents were on their way from Colorado to get me.

I finally broke up with the boy. The boy who got me into drugs and ruined my life. My first love. Without him, I had no access to drugs. I quit cold turkey. Looking back, I have no idea how I did this. I don’t remember withdrawals or cravings. All I know is I replaced it with alcohol.

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I always drank to get drunk. I felt I had missed out on college life, and I needed to make up for it. I had been controlled for too long. I was finally free. I started going to bars and clubs regularly. I got a job and re-enrolled in school. I was doing really well, and I was happy. I did what I thought was normal for someone in her early twenties. I drank every day, starting at 5. That’s what adults do, right?

I didn’t think I had a problem until I realized how much more alcohol I needed compared to my friends. Every time we went out, they were completely hammered, and I barely had a buzz. I started bringing my own shooters in my purse so I could have extra on hand. I would pour vodka into mini shampoo bottles so it wasn’t evident it was alcohol. I’d buy 100-proof to get the job done quicker.

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I was always the fun friend, but I put myself in so many terrible situations. The daily drinking continued into my 30’s and into my marriage. When I moved in with my now-husband, I had to start hiding vodka in the closet because, again, the amount I needed was extraordinarily higher than most people. I thought it was fun. It was my secret. I liked hiding it. It was like a game. When people saw me drink three glasses of wine, they had no idea about the water bottles filled with vodka I chugged from earlier. I’d gauge how much I was drinking by counting the number of gulps I took or by seeing how many shampoo bottles were empty.

I hid how much I was drinking very well. I was a functioning alcoholic. I had a great husband, amazing friends, and a stable job. In my mind, there was no way I was an alcoholic because I had all of these things. Alcoholics are people who can barely get out of bed or are homeless. They don’t look or act like me. Right?

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There were several episodes that should have been the end, but I was never ready. It took years of looking at myself in the mirror, thinking, ‘Ellen, this has to stop. You can’t continue drinking like this.’ So, I would try drinking a different way. Only wine during the week. Vodka on weekends. Svedka instead of 100-proof Smirnoff. Anything. The only thing that stayed consistent was I never allowed anyone to see how much I was truly drinking. I knew it deep down in my soul I would either die drinking or I would have to admit out loud there was a problem.

The day finally came. I learned later in the rooms it was one of my ‘yets.’ The things that make you convince yourself you are not an alcoholic. ‘I haven’t gotten a DUI…yet. Or I haven’t lost my job…yet.’ Mine was, ‘I’ve never brought alcohol into work…yet.’ My last was really a continuation of several days of drinking. I had finished everything that was hidden in the closet at 6 a.m. before heading to work because I was so shaky. I took my lunch break early (like 9:15 early) and drove to the first liquor store. It didn’t open until 10. I thought to myself, ‘Only an alcoholic would be caught waiting for a liquor store to open. I can’t do that.’ So, I went to another one nearby. Yes, it was open!

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I went in and got my usual. The cashier ringed me up and said, ‘Why you here so early today?’ I was so embarrassed. Little did he know, I needed this to calm my shakes, feel better, and make it to lunch. This was the first time I brought alcohol into this job. This was my ‘yet.’ I had basically woken up still drunk and was just continuing the drunk in order to feel okay. I was completely sh*tfaced by lunch. I knew I would be fired if anyone noticed. I had to get out. I called my husband. I knew he’d be pissed, but I have the most supportive and compassionate husband. He picked my drunk a** up from work. Yes, he was pissed but more scared and confused and completely sad. Why was I wasted at work on a Thursday by noon?

And that was it. I have not had a drink since that day. I finally knew something needed to change. I knew I was the only person who could make that change. I didn’t want to live this way anymore. I needed to change. For ME. The only way it works is when you realize you have to do it for YOURSELF. No one else can get you sober.

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If I had never met the boy and done that first line of meth, would I even be an addict? Who knows? All I know is I started out hardcore, switched to booze, and never let up. My sober life is amazing. Yes, I still have regular life problems, but everything is so much more manageable without the haze. I can do things now I never did before. Everything makes a little more sense. I’ve returned to the child I remember being when I was young and carefree. Before I knew any different. Before anyone had hurt me or pressured me. I’m back to being Ellen.

My marriage is stable. I still have my job. My family loves me. And I have twins! I was able to get pregnant and start a family sober. I believe my higher power had all of this lined up for me. I could never have done any of these things in any different order. Everything is perfectly in place that way it is supposed to be according to my journey. And now I can actually see that clearly.”

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