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“Let’s Discuss… Why I’m not inspirational just because I’m disabled.

Scenario: you meet me and find out my left hand is paralyzed. Immediately after learning my story, you tell me, ‘Wow! You’re so inspirational!’ Calling a disabled person inspirational may seem like a compliment, but it is actually exactly the opposite.
When you call a disabled person inspirational for simply living, being happy, or dealing with the challenges that come with being disabled, you are implying:

You are surprised a disabled person is living a productive life.

You don’t expect disabled people to be happy.

Disability is the most difficult challenge someone could ever face; You feel that being disabled is an awful fate and something inherently negative. All these views further perpetuate the harmful misconception that disabled people’s lives are less worthy.

On the other hand, calling a disabled person inspirational because they accomplished something not everyone has accomplished (such as surfing with one arm or dancing with paralysis) is different and acceptable. This is because the comment is directed towards something meaningful the person did rather than their existence and/or positive attitude.

The Takeaway: I’m not inspirational for simply living my life as a disabled person. I’m not inspirational for being happy while also being disabled. I’m not inspirational for dealing with the challenges that come with being disabled. Disabled people being happy should not be inspirational—it should be expected and accepted.

I’m not inspirational for living my life as a disabled person. I’m just ME.”

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Courtesy of Sarah Todd Hammer

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