“My four-year-old son has been having a rough week. His teachers told me that he has been acting off the past few days, and I have noticed it at home, too.
I don’t like to blame myself when my kids are having tough weeks, but I have also noticed that I yelled more, was less patient, and said ‘I can’t play, mommy’s busy!’ a lot.
Today, he crawled onto my lap and cuddled me. He started whining, and I told him to use his words. At that exact moment, I realized I have not been using mine.
I forgot to ask him if he was okay.
I forgot to ask him how his days were.
I forgot to ask him why he was having a rough week.
So, I did what I do for his older sister. I made him feel special.
I told him to take off his shirt, and lay down. I cut up some cucumbers, and put them on his eyes. I found one of my gentle face masks, and started to rub in onto his little forehead.
His smile was instant.
I sat there on his bed, massaging his face, reminding him that it’s okay to have bad weeks, and that mommy is there for him.
Sometimes we all need something that makes us feel better, even for a couple minutes.
Everyday I am learning how to be a more understanding parent.
Because we all need someone who understands us and to feel a little less alone, no matter the age.
I started doing this because mental health discussions need to start sooner.
Anxiety and depression don’t care if you’re 5, 25, or 65.
I had anxiety my whole childhood and didn’t know.
I was just labeled as the ‘weird kid.’
I want my kids to know it’s okay and they’re never too young to talk to me about their struggles.
My kids know I’m in therapy, and I don’t hide it from them.
I want them to know the importance of talking about their mental health struggles.”
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